I’M GETTING MARRIED GUYSSSSSS!

My friends are the real MVPs

I was bored today and I decided to tell my friends that I’m getting married and their responses had me rolling on the floor.

85% of them actually believed me and the remaining 15% are very sure about my “unseriousness”. Apart from being bored, I was curious, I wanted to see my friends reaction to me getting married and to be sincere I’m proud of them.

I find it rather funny that most of them believed me immediately, looking back at the old pranks I’ve played on them, I wouldn’t take me serious about getting married this year. However I realized something that no matter how silly or bad you are, you’ll still have friends that’ll stick by you, and this boils down to choosing those who are in circle and when I say circle, I mean your inner circle.

Some of my guys showed a very crazy level of excited and trust me I “loveeeet”. Kiki went as far as calling on video chat via instagram and Tomisin is already asking about venue of the wedding, Ayomide asked for proposal videos and pictures so that she could post them, Mary was raining prayers, Deborah was already planning on how to save money for Aso ebi and Leah was already happy because she thought we’d be married the same year.

Meanwhile some people just typed “congratulations babe” and that’s not how I’d reacted if reverse was the case, 3 people I know got married already this year and I’m not even that close to 2 of them except for Leah, and my reaction to their news was pure excitement just like the ones I got from most of my guys.

I’m not mad at those other people I’m just disappointed and I hope they are good.

Why am I writing this?

The prank was supposed to last 10 minutes and I’d tell them I was bored but I actually thought about how blessed I am with the people around me and I learnt 4 things from this prank;

1. Energy, love and respect is reciprocal, this people that were excited for me and even some of those that were just “meh” have gotten nothing but pure love and respect from me and the ones that were genuinely happy are for have one way or the other gotten these attributes from me. Don’t expect to receive love where you didn’t plant it. Life is reciprocal and energy will always be reciprocated.

2. When the ones you’ve always had pure love for did not reciprocate it, don’t feel entitled to it. Life is full of choices and everyone has their own choice to make and you have to respect their choices. Love can’t be forced or imposed, it’s given freely, you chose to live them and be excited about their breakthroughs but they don’t feel the same for you, move on! Don’t be a cow, respect yourself and prioritize your peace.

3. People fight silent battles, everybody has one or two going on with them, and most of choose not to talk about it. When people don’t show up for you the way you’ve expected them to, remember the days they show up and showed up for you, remember the memories you shared. I remember telling a newly acquired friend some weeks back when she was telling me why she stopped talking to some people, that “don’t loose meaningful friendships/relationships because of childish/irrelevant matters”.

4. I am reminded today to always be a good friend, I am not perfect but I always try my best to make up for mistakes and apologize when I wrong my loved ones even random people. To that friend that’s wronged, don’t make the situation worse, when we/they apologize, let it slide and you might be as good to the person like before but maintain a simple relationship and make the world a less hard place. But some people deserves to be cut off sha, because they are really unbelievably dumb.

To my victims of the day, I do not take your love for granted, don’t worry my marriage is coming soon. I love you guys.

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Love, Light and Spicy indomie.

Oluwaseun Ayanfebaba

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