Dearest gentle reader,
I know it’s a new year and this topic may not align with some of you at the moment but I just have to write this.
It’s a new year and a good percentage of humans have new year resolutions and things they said they won’t do anymore. I’d use myself for example, I said I would stop drinking soda and it was still the first week of the year, guess who was fighting her best friend over a bottle of pop cola, meeeee!
The point is it is not easy to let go of a habit whether good or bad and it’s not easy to create a new one likewise. For me change is one of the scariest things in this world and if you can’t accept change, you’ll dwell in delusion. I know it is not easy, I am at that point right now and the only thing I can say is “it is well”.
There is a certain urge or pressure that we put on ourselves. The urge to impress people with our lifestyle, achievements and even intellect. One of the most powerful quotes I have come across is “don’t die trying to impress people that does not even care”.
We feel pressured to have attained some things at a particular age and we end up with regrets after giving in to the pressure.
One thing learnt from my dad is not to live your life to impress anyone and let the world see you the way you are. We go out there trying to prove that we are also in the limelight. Slowly, the term “fake life” begins to match our description and we forget ourselves. A lot of people’s December was “dettied” under the pressure of I also want to “oblee” knowing fully well that they can only “homeblee” with that account balance. We as a people has lost the act of enjoying little things that matters. Well, December is bygone drink your garri in January with love, let’s focus on the future.
It’s a new year and you have set goals, my dear it is okay not to achieve a hundred percent if you don’t have the means, don’t do things you won’t be proud of at the end of the year evaluation. I’m not saying you should to attain a hundred percent but don’t go outside the noble way to get it done.
It is very okay to fail and try again or even try new things, it’s okay to keep applying for new roles, it’s okay to keep building at a rate you are comfortable with as long as you are growing. As long as you are breathing there is a chance to always try again. The societal deadline is for the society not you, the parental pressure is for the parents, the peer pressure is the “peer’s” problem. It’s okay to take baby steps and it’s okay to crawl and trust me you are doing well.
This year no gree for anybody or any pressure, the only person that should apply pressure on you is you! And don’t over do it. That deadline is not your death line.
You will be fine baby.
Breathe.
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Love, Light and Amala,
Oluwaseun Ayanfebaba.
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