*Delusion and how it affects relationships*
Delusion, according to Oxford Dictionary, is a false belief or judgement about external reality, held despite incontrovertible evidence to the contrary, occuring especially in mental conditions.
Delusion can also be a false belief based on incorrect inference about external reality that is firmly sustained despite what almost everybody else believes and despite what constitutes incontrovertible and obvious proof or evidence to the contrary.
In my own words, I will tag "Delusion" as having a thought of what does not actually exist or what is not actually occuring.
There are different aspects of delusion but I will like to look into the aspect of "Jealousy" as a delusion that affects not only romantic relationships, but also relationships with people in general e.g. family relationships, relationship as colleagues, relationship as close friends and all kinds/forms of relationship.
We also have to look into the meaning of jealousy in order to understand this topic better.
Jealousy, according to Oxford Dictionary, is the state or feeling of being jealous, that is, feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions or perceived advantages.
How is jealousy a delusion?
Jealousy is a delusion in the sense that often times, what we are jealous of does not exist. We will be citing examples in this article so kindly enjoy the journey as we explain things.
For instance, in a romantic relationship, a partner might be jealous that his/her partner is attracted to someone else or is involved with another person when clearly nothing of such is happening. The other partner being close the presupposed "side chick" may just be based on work, class assignment or being course mates or even friends.
Second instance is a feeling of jealousy in the family. Where the elder child feels the parents likes the younger child more than him/her whereas the parents are just being protective of the younger child.
If you must ask, delusion is much more dangerous than a knife because it pierces the heart and makes one have a different notion from what something really is.
How to control the delusion of jealousy: trust me, you cannot totally eliminate delusion especially if it what has been happening right from the start.
(1). Call yourself to a meeting: this is otherwise known as meditation. Speak to yourself and give your self reasons why jealousy should not occur. For instance, you having a close friend that is close to another person and you are being jealous that the other person will take away your friend even when your friend still gives you the required attention, tell yourself the truth by saying "He/she still gives me attention and we are still close, so why should I be jealous? Should I stop him/her from having new friends just because he/she is my friend? No. So what do I do? Stop being jealous of my close friend's relationship with other friends."
(2). Addressing the issue rather than thinking it: In a romantic relationship, when jealousy of a partner's closeness with another especially the opposite sex of the partner occurs, call the partner and ask his/her relationship with the person for clarification. After that, be rest assured and this is where trust comes in. Trust your partner.
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